Archive for January 2020
How to Communicate Effectively to Increase Connection and Intimacy
Today I will introduce you to the tools of effective communication so that when conflict arises, which is inevitable in any genuine relationship, you know how to bring your point across in a way that increases connection and intimacy. Conflict is not the problem in relationships, it is simply growth wanting to happen and a…
Read On >How to Stop Worrying When My Anxiety Is Taking over and I Am Feeling Helpless
Have you ever experienced any of the following anxiety symptoms: shortness of breath, a smothering sensation in your chest, dizziness, heart palpitations, trembling, sweating, a choking sensation, nausea, abdominal stress, numbness, tingling in your extremities, flushes, chills, or chest pain? I for sure have experienced some of them in the past and, just like you,…
Read On >How to Escape the Suffocation Grip of Shame
Do you know shame? For me, shame is the most painful of all the emotions. Its message is, “You are not ok, there is something wrong with you”. And when it bubbles up, I try to run! How do you react, when you feel shame? Shame nearly suffocated me as a teenager when I got…
Read On >Comparing Yourself to Others Is a Sure Way to Misery: How to Learn to Live Your Best Possible Life
I find it is so easy to get caught up in a never-ending loop of comparing myself to others. What about you? It is not surprising that so many of us struggle with comparing ourselves to others. Our whole economic system, capitalism, is built on comparison. All of us get bombarded daily through media with…
Read On >There Is No Way Around it: Choose Forgiveness If You Want to Be Happy
There is no peaceful, joyous life without forgiveness. That is, forgiving myself and forgiving others. We all have hurt ourselves and others, and have been hurt by others. This is part of the human condition. Hanging on to anger and resentment is like drinking a cup of poison, hoping the other person will die. Or,…
Read On >Just Because You Have Conflict in Your Relationship Does Not Mean That You Are With the Wrong Person
It might just mean that you don’t have the tools to move through conflict. I often feel upset (and it drives me crazy, to be honest) when I come across the narrative in our culture that because you have conflict in your relationship, it means that you are with the wrong person and need to…
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